technically some brainiacs may want to label it that way.
I just can’t get him to be quiet!
I’m a bit skittish about labeling people. Labels tend to follow a person for the rest of their life.
Many parents with ADD/ADHD children have put them on the social security rolls.
When my son was young I refused to do that. I knew if I had, that label would have followed him the rest of his life. I just wouldn’t couldn’t do that to him.
What’s the purpose of labeling ADD/ADHD a mental disease or disorder?
I really don’t know.
I had a young man who has been diagnosed with adult ADD/ADHD, comment here on this blog.
He was a bit irritated because he felt I was painting my son and other people like my son, as a freak. This young man said–
There are a number of ways to deal with adult ad/hd… and we aren’t just some freaks… the way you illustrate it in your blog. You probably won’t agree with how i feel about your post…I’m surprised my underachieving ability is able to write a coherent thought, but here I am.
I understand; you want a sounding board to scream out your frustrations with dealing w/ adhd people… awesome!
Don’t bill your blog as some place people can talk about adhd and grow when all you do is COMPLAIN.
I’m not doing that. And, I’m sorry he felt as if I was.
I’m writing about how life is living with my son who happens to be ADD/ADHD.
If writing about sleepless nights, loudness, mouthiness, frustration [his], throwing things, breaking things etc… is complaining then, so be it, I’m complaining.
How would this young man feel about the article I just read: some in the psychiatric community want to label ADD/ADHD as a mental illness?
From ADD/ADHD RESOURCES
Although my thinking might bring the wrath of the ADHD community down on me, hear me out. To me, it seems appropriate to call ADHD a mental illness. Years ago it might have been reasonable to separate the severely abnormal behaviors seen in the “mentally ill” (i.e. when a person became psychotic) from the lesser abnormal behaviors, seen in those with ADHD, but our new knowledge about the brain eliminates this distinction for me.
I don’t think he’d like what was said here either.
My whole point to this blog is to vent my frustrations. Also, to show how someone like my son acts on a daily basis.
To show that people like him are difficult to have a relationship with.
Like, last night, for me, it was another sleepless night. He had company in my house at 3:00AM which, I didn’t appreciate.
So, I tried to discuss with him how this action was disrespectful. Well, that was like talking to a remote control in mid-switch.
His mouth blabbered [it’s almost as if he’s speaking another language] as fast as his brain — the dog listens better than he does.
He just won’t put the shut with the up!
I believe that if he would go to counseling and receive the help that he needs life would be better for the both of us.
Right now, I make sure he eats balanced meals and he, on his own, does go out and exercise.
Things are better than they were but, we’ve got a long way to go.
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