*Sigh* I Could Cry; He Never Stays on Task

I could Cry

It never fails! James can’t stay on task no matter what.

When there’s a bump in the road of life he doesn’t hurdle over it, he turns around to look for some place to hide.

I’ve told him over and over again. If plan A doesn’t work go to plan B and if that doesn’t work go to plan C. If you have to go through the whole alphabet do  it until you get to where you’re going.

My poor guy is so frustrated with school he’s depressed. All I can do is be there for him.

This is what’s happening; James (my son) enrolled in school to become a Certified Medical Assistant. He has gone all the way through the course and is about to graduate.

Now, he’s doing his Exsternship at some lab.  Feelings of frustration are piling up.

He thinks he knows nothing and is blaming the school. He says the school hasn’t taught him a thing and now he’s feeling inadequate.

Sure, he could be right. They school may not have taught him anything but, if his other  classmates are somewhat succeeding so can he.

Now, he wants to go to another school.

I’ve asked and pleaded with him to go get help. If he would go see someone they’d be able to teach him how to cope with the everyday pressures of life.

ADHD adults have a very difficult time in school and in the work place. These types of people are different.

People KNOW that they are different and don’t understand how their minds work.

They don’t understand that ADD/ADHD brains flip around  as if someone is holding a remote and constantly changing the channel.

I could just cry! My heart hurts for him. I can’t force him to do anything now that he’s grown.

I read at ADHD Central dot com that most ADD/ADHD adults NEVER seek treatment. They live their lives frustrated and depressed. This  is my son.

“Some adults with ADHD, however, have spent years going from one job to another, feeling as if they could never quite “get it together.”  Some have found ways to self-medicate, including caffeine or illegal substances.  Some live in despair, wondering why their life seems hopeless.” READ MORE

Today, he’s refusing to go to the lab. He thinks that they are treating him differently than his other classmate that’s there.

He wants to give up when he’s so close to being done.

*Sigh* I feel like crying…I really do.

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No sleep, no sleep NO SLEEP!

Tired People

First, let me apologize for the long lag between posts.  It’s not that I don’t have a lot to say, it’s because my health issues seem to get in the way.

It’s difficult for healthy people to deal with a person with ADHD. Can you imagine what it’s like for someone with their own issues to deal with these busy people.

My body requires SLEEP, lots and lots of sleep. I’m disabled, I have a whole laundry list of ailments that require REST.

When I don’t get that rest I become a maniacal predator who wants to gnaw on anyone that moves.

But my son, NO! his brain never ever shuts off. He stays up all night. Sometimes he stays up days at a time.

I realize that people in his age group tend to be night owls. They sleep all day and stay up all night. Then, they have the audacity to try and go to work or school.

I don’t understand how they are able to concentrate. Without proper rest your body becomes like that of a drunk. Disorientated, forgetful, and woozy. There’s no way they can think straight and be productive in a work-place or at school.

HELLO! young people, your body says it needs the rest. What part of that concept is not understood.

Well, guess what, since my adult son lives with ME and he’s up ALL hours of the night, guess who’s up too. ME!

Last night or should I say EARLY this morning, my son was up roaming around. He was slamming doors and cupboards.

He came in my room and asked  “Mom, what are you doing”

to which I replied “James, my eyes were closed and my mouth was open, what do you think I was doing?”

Then he asked “why can’t you sleep?”

In my household it’s a continuous battle to get quality sleep.

It gets so bad for my son that he self-medicates. He takes my Vicodin (I now hide it) then drinks a couple of Beers. Next thing you know he’s snoring so loud it scares the dog.

The next morning you can’t get him up.

I just read on the ADDitude website that they are now just understanding the link between ADD/ADHD and sleep.

These people who suffer from this disorder are insomniacs. Well, I could have told them that!

Not only are THEY insomniacs they make the rest of the household insomniacs.

Here’s an article on ADD/ADHD Sleep Battles

I love my son but, he’s wearing on my nerves!

Till next time…get some rest! I won’t!