I Can’t Stand the Mouthiness!


This isn’t me but, she’s got my feelings down to a “tee”

He’s 28 years old and mouths off like a preteen.

Sometimes, I just want to rear back and POW!

He doesn’t care how others feel. It’s all about him and his tiny world.

How can an adult with ADHD control themselves when they think nothing’s wrong? He’s okay but the rest of the world is off their rockers.

Most ADHD/ADD sufferers have more than one mental/learning problem.  The problem is getting it diagnosed early enough in life to deal with it.

In my case, the other problem wasn’t diagnosed and still hasn’t been.

All I know; my son’s people skill issues are severely flawed. He can’t keep friends. No one wants to be around a mouthy disrespectful know-it-all.  He’s come home with the snot beat out of him. What do I do…what do I do.

I don’t even want to be around him. I’d like to pick up something and deck him with it. Yet, I’m his Mom and can’t leave him to fend for himself.  He can’t take care of himself.

Not all people who suffer with ADHD/ADD are like my son. I know they can function somewhat normally but, oh, boy — I’ve got a doozy! He says he’s always angry, especially with me. I know he’s angry with me. He’s angry because I won’t cow-tow to his wishes.

This is my house, I’m Queen “B” around here and there’s no King.

I’m so very, very tired.

Here’s something I found on the net which, some what, addresses personal and work relationships for people with ADHD/ADD — GOOGLE BOOK ADHD/ADD

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Sleep and ADHD/ADD…yeah right!

Whether the person who has ADHD/ADD is an adult or a child, sleep is fleeting.

From my experience, the person affected is just as busy in their sleep as they are awake.

I’m listening to my son now and he’s having a wrestling match and many conversations in his sleep.

I’m a firm believer in getting enough sleep. Sleep is the body’s natural healer. When interrupted, the healing process is flawed.

No wonder my son is a grouch and hard to deal with, he’s not fully rested. He can’t and won’t go to sleep at night. Sometimes he’s up for days. When he’s up then I’m up. He figures since he isn’t sleeping the rest of the house shouldn’t either.

I’m tired!

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ADHD and Substance Abuse

Yes, this does happen. It has happened with my son.

He’s a pill popper and beer drinker, all at the same time.

Drugs mixed with alcohol is a horrible combination.

Here’s an article I found ADHD & Substance Abuse.

If it’s not one thing putting gray in our hair it’s another.

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When we just can’t take any more!


He’s BACK from swinging through the rings of Saturn

What do we do.

Me, I actually screamed out to God. “Lord I just can’t take any more!”

For those of you who don’t believe in God, what do you do?

I prayed and asked for forgiveness and prayed and asked for forgiveness, over and over and over.

I thought about things to do to him that no mother should ever even consider.

It brought tears to my eyes when I thought them and still does just remembering what insidious things had broken loose in my head.

I haven’t written on this Blog for over a year.  It’s not because I didn’t want to, it’s because my ADHD man/child has a tendency to come in and look over my shoulder when I’m writing.

So much has happened this last year.

My son, got involved with drugs and very bad people.  With his actions, I myself, turned into someone I didn’t like.

I’m a strong-willed woman. Over the years raising my son, I had to toughen up.  Little did I know that when he became grown, life became tougher.

I’ve begged and pleaded with him to go for counseling.  There are support groups out there for people like him. I almost had him convinced until he got himself arrested.  He spent a couple of weeks in jail. Needless to say when he was released he didn’t want to talk about support groups or any type of structured organizations that would stress making a change in his life.

My son had been coming home in the wee hours of the morning stoned/drunk. He’d wake me up and be very verbally abusive. Me, being as tough as I am would sit still for any type of abuse.

So, out came my club. Yes, my club.  It got ugly and I don’t really want to get into what happened [on numerous occasions] let’s just say the police were called. I called the police and they threatened to arrest me!

One night my son came home around 4’oclock in the morning. He had been beaten up. I couldn’t get him to go to emergency so, I wound up nursing him.

That was the turning point for him. He got tired of being jumped by very nasty people.

He said “Mom, I just don’t seem to be able to get along with people” All I could do was look at him.  He finally understood that his personality and his condition tends to make life hard on him.

There’s more to our story but I want to go on and post some thoughts from a website I found.

The website is called Adult ADD Strengths.

In short it talks about 10 Ways to Manage Adult ADHD

  1. ADHD Coaching.
  2. ADHD Medication.
  3. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy
  4. ADHD Support Groups
  5. Adequate Diet
  6. Exercise
  7. Learning to Slow down and Stop
  8. Meditation
  9. Tutors or Educational Psychologists
  10. Professional Business and Personal Help

Right now my son is attending school. I was thrilled when he himself went and enrolled.  I’ll be posting more of my adventures now that he’s gone in the evenings.

So, stay tuned for more.

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